Shannon here: Women’s fiction author, Jennifer Slattery shares insight into her heroine, Ainsley, from her debut novel, Beyond I Do. Comment, give Ainsley advice, or answer the question at the end of the post to enter the drawing for a print or e-book copy. Deadline: Oct 25th, 11:59 pm central time. Here’s Jennifer/Ainsley:
Post by Ainsley Meadows – heroine of Beyond I Do by Jennifer Slattery:
When you were a little girl, did you like to play dress-up? Did you ever host mock weddings, using streams of tissue paper for your veil? Maybe your attire was more elegant and used real satin, lace, and pearls.
But then your mother caught you fingering through her jewelry box and smearing lipstick all over your face—the kind that stains. Of course, you found the red smudges beautiful. The chapped skin that came from the scrubbing afterward? Not so much.
I was quite the fanciful child, always dreaming of my happily-ever-after. I had it all planned out. I’d wear the perfect gown, get married in a tiny cabin tucked deep within the woods. For years, I thought such a place didn’t exist except in my dreams. But then, not long ago, I stumbled upon a magazine that depicted just such a cabin—like the one I’d always dreamed of, on the cover.
Regressing to that toe-head little girl tottering around in her mother’s high heels, I grabbed the issue and hurried off to meet my fiancé for lunch, certain he’d be as excited about what I found as I was.
He wasn’t. To put it mildly.
(sigh) Which in itself isn’t such a big deal. Okay, so maybe it is. I mean, how often does one find the cabin of their dreams, literally? But though I pouted a bit, I got over it.
Sort of…
But cabin or not, I should be excited—I’m getting married soon!
The only problem is, I have the worst case of cold feet ever. Gina, my best friend, says I need to “listen to my gut.” To which I responded, “That’s just indigestion.”
Yet, I have to ask, how does one know when a beau is the one? You all have been reading real-life romance stories on Shannon’s blog long enough to know forever-love when you see it. That’s what I want—forever love.
When I began dating Richard, I thought I’d found that. We met at mental health conference hosted in Topeka. Being a pharmaceutical representative, I wasn’t exactly the guest of honor. Rather, I felt more like a life-insurance salesman at a funeral home. 😉
The place was packed with a bunch of stuffy psychiatrists in suits and ties dipped in so much starch, the fabric crackled when they walked. Richard’s jacket was equally pressed, but his smile was warm and friendly. Not to mention he was incredibly handsome. Tall, dark, thick hair, well-built, and intelligent, to boot. Brilliant, actually. Setting me at ease, he ushered me to an empty seat at his table and livened the night up with interesting stories.
A whirlwind of a romance followed. Oh, the places he took me! Over the next five years, we ate at the nicest restaurants, went to the theater, and attended the most elegant parties.
But then, he received a book contract, and everything changed. Or perhaps I should say, grew more intense, including him. I know he’s stressed. After all, writing and launching a book can’t be easy, especially while running a successful practice.
But what if this new Richard never goes away?
I suppose that leads me to my next question, and being the avid romance readers I know you are, I hope you’ll have plenty of advice to offer. None of us will behave perfectly all the time, and we all go through crabby or unpleasant periods. I was a mess all of high school! It’s any wonder my mother didn’t give me the boot.
Oh, wait. She did.
Anyway, back to my question… When should one end a romantic relationship, or at the very least, ask for a break, and when do they stick things out?
For that matter, is love, real love, really strong enough to overcome any challenge, argument, or set-back?
Ha! You didn’t know you’d be playing therapist today, did you? Shannon, I’m sorry if I’ve monopolized this post. It’s just I really need some advice.
Question: Did you or anyone you know have cold feet at the wedding?
About Jennifer: Jennifer Slattery writes missional fiction for New Hope Publishers, a publishing house passionate about bringing God’s healing grace and truth to the hopeless. She also writes Christian Living articles for Crosswalk.com, writes and edits for Christ to the World Ministries, and writes devotions for her personal blog, JenniferSlatteryLivesOutloud, and Internet Café Devotions. When she’s not writing, her and her husband are probably sitting at a coffee shop somewhere, him reading a sports article on his phone while she loses herself in a great novel.
About the book – Beyond I Do:
Will seeing beyond the present unite them or tear them apart?
Marriage . . . it’s more than a happily ever after. Eternally more.
Ainsley Meadows, raised by a hedonist mother, who cycles through jobs and relationships like wrapping paper on Christmas morning, falls into a predictable and safe relationship with Richard, a self-absorbed socialite psychiatrist. But as her wedding nears, a battered woman and her child spark a long-forgotten dream and ignite a hidden passion. One that threatens to change everything, including her fiancé. To embrace God’s best and find true love, this security-seeking bride must follow God with reckless abandon and realize that marriage goes Beyond I Do.
Purchase link: http://www.amazon.com/Jennifer-Slattery/e/B00JKQ4ZTW/ref=dp_byline_cont_book_1
Read a free, 36-page excerpt here: http://issuu.com/newhopedigital/docs/beyond_i_do_sample?e=6362996/8842858
Come back Oct 17th for Jennifer’s excerpt!
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shelia hall says
yes, the bride got cold feet and cancelled the wedding! they got married 6 months later
Maxie Anderson says
Hello Jennifer. So you are having cold feet huh? Sorry. But you need to be sure you want to be with him the rest of your life. Does your toes curl when he kisses you? LOL My older sister told me thats how she knew. And, she had a good marriage. Better to feel sure than sorry. Pray a lot and let GOD lead you. Do you feel like you can’t live another day without him at your side.? So, you are both writers? Something in common, huh? Be sure you talk about your expectations of marriage with each other. (something too many don’t do.) Make a list of questions. (each of you.) How many kids, how to discipline them, where you will go to church if different religions. This can cause a lot of problems. What you expect from marriage? GOD wants us to marry another Christian to have a happier home. Another thing. Don’t go into marriage thinking you will change the things you don’t like about each other. It DOESN’T work that way. It has to be something you can accept and live with. So many people, especially women think this way. I do hope everything will go good for you. Don’t go into the marriage thinking “oh well we can get a divorce if it doesn’t work.” I think too many have this attitude. Marriage isn’t always easy. It is something you both have to work at to have a lasting happy marriage. Pray a lot. GOD bless you.
Maxie > mac262(at)me(dot)com <
Shannon Taylor Vannatter says
I was nervous at my wedding, but not because of cold feet. I was just nervous about being in front of all those people, tripping down the aisle, messing up my vows–that kind of thing. I did none of the above.
Shannon Taylor Vannatter says
Hey Maxie,
Don’t worry about Jennifer. She’s happily married. It’s her character in the conundrum. I’m reading the book now and reallly enjoying it.
Jennifer slattery says
Hi, Maxie!
Thanks for stopping by, and such great advice! You probably read Shannon ‘ s reply and know Ainsley, my main character, is the one with the cold feet. I’ve been married for 19 years, and though I didn’t have cold feet, I did cry on my wedding day! (Happy tears!) Nineteen years later and I’m still prone to tears, and still happy. 🙂