Shannon here: Jordyn Redwood shares insight into her real life romance. Comment or answer the question to enter the drawing for a copy of her latest Romantic Suspense, Taken Hostage. Deadline: Sept 30th, 11:59 pm central time. Here’s Jordyn:
My husband and I will be celebrating twenty years of marriage in January. Can you believe that? Two decades of wedded . . . mostly bliss. We operate on a 90/10 rule. As long as we’re happy ninety percent of the time, we consider ourselves happily married. Personally, I don’t think it’s realistic to expect to be happily married one hundred percent of the time. Do you?
Before my husband and I were married, we took a marriage inventory and went over the results with our pastor. At the start of the session he says, “Never in my life have I ever had anyone score as high as you in one particular area. Nearly a perfect score!”
Of course, we were anxious to hear just what area we were so spectacularly awesome in. Romance? Family? Religion? Managing money? I could see my future husband practically polishing his nails on his shoulder for a perfect score in that category considering he’s an accountant.
Our nearly perfect score? It came in the reality of marriage category. I know—I can see you’re all green with jealously. Questions in this category? Can you change your spouse? Can children improve a difficult marriage? Can having more children solve your problems?
Looking back on our twenty years—I think this realistic view of marriage has served us well. We take our commitment, our vows, seriously. We know feelings can wax and wane. One day—my husband hangs my moon and stars. The next, I might want to put him on the porch with a “free to good home” sign, and I also know he feels this way about me sometimes. We knew children would be challenging and not perfectly bundled angels that would never do anything wrong.
One of the times I loved my spouse the most was when my job as a nurse was threatened. I was facing some uncertain times and there was a remote chance I might have had to give up the profession I loved. Not only did that hit at the very core of my being, but also was concerning to us financially. What would we do if I lost that income—perhaps never to be able to get it back? I was mentally a disaster.
This was his speech to me at the time. “We are still us and nothing is going to change that. We will still be together. We will still have our children and our home. We will figure this out, but the most important things will still be intact. I love you—that, too, will never change.”
Those words mirrored our nearly perfect score from that marriage inventory all those years earlier. Those words were reality, but said with so much love—so much love for me and what we were together.
Reality in marriage means you may not feel totally in love every day and that’s okay. Your spouse will mess up—in big and small things. Forgive them. Be gracious when they disappoint you because you will do the same at some point.
Also remember—sometimes it’s in the valleys that you will find the greatest love. I might even argue that’s where the greatest love exists.
About Jordyn: Jordyn Redwood is a pediatric ER nurse by night, suspense novelist by day. She hosts Redwood’s Medical Edge, a blog devoted to helping authors write medically accurate fiction. Her first two medical thrillers, Proof and Poison,garnered starred reviews from Library Journal. Proof was shortlisted for the 2012 ForeWord Review’s BOTY Award, 2013 INSPY Award and the 2013 Carol Award. Poison shortlisted for the 2014 INSPY Award and the 2014 Selah Award. Fractured Memory was contracted through Love Inspired’s Blurb to Book Contest and finaled in theContemporary Romance Writers Stiletto Contest. In addition to her novels, she blogs regularly at Redwood’s Medical Edge and the WordServe Water Cooler. You can connect with Jordyn via her website, Facebook, Twitterand Pinterest and she loves to get e-mail from her readers at firstname.lastname@example.org.
About the book – Taken Hostage:
A Deadly Ransom
When neurosurgeon Regan Lockhart’s daughter is kidnapped, the abductors want to make a deal for the little girl’s life. If she wishes to ever see her child again, Regan must hand over the virus she uses in a radical cancer treatment. But bounty hunter Colby Waterson can’t let her trade the cure, which is his sister’s last hope. He’s already lost a wife and baby, and he won’t lose anyone else. But when a mistake leads both him and Regan into the hands of the bad guys, the kidnappers up their demands. Now Regan must create a biological weapon or her daughter dies. For Colby, no case has ever been this personal. He’ll need every skill he’s got, because only he can save both his sister and the woman he’s growing to care for.
Question for Readers: Share with me in the comments how either you have overcome adversity and or you and your spouse have overcome adversity and had a deeper love for each other on the other side.
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